Say What's Wrong and Make It Right
|Posted on 13 May, 2022 at 13:55|
I've been asked about this by parents of a four-year-old. I am not aware of this happening at the four-year-old level. I think building an individual's self-esteem is the foundation for anti-bullying. Part of that foundation is teaching children that they have the Right and Responsibility to Say What's Wtong and Make It Right when they are upset. If the child has a complaint about an interaction with another child, role-working about the specific incident may be helpful.
Complaint about: "Johnny said he didn't want to be my friend."
This is where Say What's Wrong and Make It Right is so helpful. This is the opportunity for the adult to bring the two together (ALWAYS one-to-one, NEVER two-to-one) guiding them thru the five steps:
Both get to say to each other AND listen to each other (WHILE MAKING EYE CONTACT)
1. "I am upset about..."
2. "I want you to stop."
3. Talk about how each one of you is feeling.
4. Come up with a solution that is satisfying to both of you.
5. Put the plan into action.
Consistently using this simple,process is such an effective way to develop these lifelong essential communication/ problem-solving skills.